Wedding tips: Free best man speech samples and examples
There are seven easy steps, with a sample, to deliver a great best man speech toast at a wedding.
One of the most feared things in any man’s life is the dreaded question, “Will you be my best man?” Not because of the wedding, the bachelor party, or losing your best single pal – rather because of the commitment you are making, to toast the happy couple. So for all those drafted friends, here are eight easy steps to follow when giving a funny best man’s speech.
1. Keep it Short!!!!! This can’t be emphasized enough. You may have a great tale of the funniest 48 hours you spent with the groom, but unless you can shrink it to 2-3 minutes don’t share it.
2. Keep it in Good Taste. The speech is about sending the couple off together. Your anecdotes shouldn’t cause one of those uncomfortable Wonder Year’s silences. Focus on a quirk or some small amusing element.
3. Timing is Everything. The best man’s speech should always be timed properly. Make sure that the reception has been going on for a while – if a dinner is being given, most of the guests should have finished – and that this is before the cake is cut and bouquet is thrown, typically the last hurrahs before the happy couple rushes off.
4. Let someone else say it for you. Find a quote, a musical refrain, or a catchphrase to add the right sentiment. This takes the pressure off you to suddenly be a poet.
5. Keep it real. You are just telling two of your best friends how happy you are on this occasion. Your speech isn’t the focus and your job as a stand-up isn’t depending on this moment and the happiness of their union doesn’t hinge on you saying the right thing.
6. Go with what you know. If all else fails a simple “Here’s to You” always works and is appropriate. Yours will be one of many speeches during the reception – and each of them will be as nervous as you about their speech.
7. Pay attention. If everyone else is giving serious speeches, don’t go for the laugh. Similarly, if everyone is being lighthearted, don’t try to inject a serious moment.
8. Follow the Formula. Whatever route you go a simple outline always helps. That outline should be:
I. Why you are there (When John and Bitsy invited me to the wedding….)
II. What you want to say (I never thought he would tie the knot – it was the one patch he never mastered in boy scouts..)
III. What you really mean (But they did it, and today they are the luckiest couple in the world – just hope it wasn’t a slip knot)
IV. Close the toast (So join me in raising a glass to John and Bitsy and wishing them well in all to come.)
Just remember, you were asked to serve as best man because of the importance you serve in the new couple’s life, not for your speaking skills. The key thing is for you to support the couple and wish them the best. Follow these simple steps and your worst fear can be conquered.